5 Things Husbands Never tell their Wives

…now that I’ve gotten your attention, I’m first going to go into the whole positive spiel about how happily married couples share everything including the toothbrush (eew!) and how they keep absolutely nothing from each other (in case you missed it, I just said the positive bit!). The negative bit I’m about to unleash (Armageddon style) is not for the faint-hearted wives or judgmental/paranoid wives-to-be. If you fall into either category then please close this article now and wait for another publication, otherwise please read on…

Men have secrets, some more than others. When they get married they may choose to share some secrets but where do they draw the line without triggering a marriage meltdown? A husband may want to ‘put a sock in it’ if they woke up one morning and decided to narrate an erotic dream that didn’t involve their wife (even if the woman involved was some impossible-to-get celebrity). That’s just asking for a whole lot of trouble. How about that special female friend whom he’s been in touch with before and after marriage? I don’t think a married man will see sense in disclosing that kind of info, unless of course his wife wasn’t the jealous type (that’s like saying there are dogs that aren’t the barking type!).

On a scarier note, a considerate husband would not disclose any possible regrets for marrying his wife…at least not to the wife. It’s a tough pill to swallow but marriage proposals founded on pity, unplanned pregnancy or financial gain may soon begin to see Frustration rear its ugly head. Next thing you know, the truth is out there like the X-files! Sadly some women just can’t handle the truth; which brings me to the fourth thing husbands won’t tell their wives – how their wives REALLY look. I’m not talking about the diplomatic ‘You like fine, dear’. I mean If she’s having a real ‘off’ day e.g. she’s a little heavy and she’s concerned about her weight, she’s got extremely sensitive skin and she’s concerned about her spots, or perhaps she’s got a freakishly futuristic hairdo she loves but you have a big question mark about, etc.

But it’s not all about the wife, what she looks like or what private relationships or dreams she’s unaware of – there’s also other ‘assets’ to worry about. I heard about joint bank accounts for couples where either can sign to make withdrawals but let’s face it; how many husbands would tell their wives about that private account where their (back-up) funds are kept safe from frivolous spending, possible divorce settlements, etc? You only know what you know, you know

MTWAPA THE FUN TASTIC CITY

It's on a Friday and at around 11.00pm as I walk in the streets of Mombasa in a Metropolitan Town going by the name Mtwapa, I decide to pop in a club *F******N* to see what many people have been telling me about ladies dancing naked (Stripping). Unfortunately I find no stripper I ask a guy next to my table about them and he directs me to two nearby clubs *L******P* & *B******F*. I sip my drink very fast and phew! off with my cameras to the above two mentioned clubs. On my way i hear a woman's voice ''Anko.........Anko..........Anko....Kidogo'' i turn my head only to realize am the one being called, two ladies all rushing to where am standing and one starts ''

Lady one---> Mambo
ME---> Poa
Lady one---> Naona uko lonely
Lady two---> Naitwa Nancy Sijui wewe?
ME---> Naitwa Mike
Lady One---> Aaaaaw Mike, a sexy name

I decide to hit the nail on the head "Mwasemaje?"
One is like "nataka kukukeep busy leo"  the other one is like "hutaregret" they have a disagreement on who to go with me but eventually the other lady *Purity* pulls out of the race and now am remaining with one *Nancy* and she gives me the services she offers with their prices as stated below

1. ONE SHOT ---> 300
2. TWO SHOTS ---> 600
3. WHOLE NIGHT ---> 1500

Just before she finishes giving me the breakdown she notices am holding a camera and a question comes out "Kwani wewe ni wa Jicho Pevu?" I tell her no because if at all it was a Yes then i would have been dead by now.....I cut her short by telling her am on official duty and can't go with her, she agrees to that very quickly and off she goes.....A sigh of relief after 30 hectic minutes. I proceed to B*****f and this time very careful because cameras are their biggest enemy. I enter the club and O.M.G strippers are all over. As i head to the Counter to get a drink and roll my eyes as i spectate i collide with a nude lady, she is profusely sweating and i figure out she was the one on stage when i entered the club. I take it easy and order for my drink and find a place to sit. It's already mid night and the show is bound to be hot, The Disco Joker is busy doing what he does best. Ladies from Kenya,Uganda,Tanzania, Nigeria come on stage showing their nude bodies and yes that's what they call 'WORK'. The club is loaded by people from all walks of life and now the theme of the show is bound to start....S******y the show stopper gets on stage and that's where hell breaks loose, He is said to ........TO BE CONTINUED

PROSTITUTES PAID FOR THEIR LOSS OF SOCIAL STANDING IN SOCIETY

Much will be written about the moral decadence of Mtwapa that its quite, impossible to visit the town without pre-conceived ideas. Teenage youthful school drop-out girl’s young men, medium age single mothers are in trouble, Since their hub of life is centered on prostitution. How? They offer their bodies for sexual intercourse in exchange for money.

Prostitution in Mtwapa is a profession and a source of livelihood to different groups of prostitutes called sex-workers. In particular during the day  its low key while generally at night  its at the  peak. Sometimes at night one may think it’s a formalized social institution in its own right.

Anyway, what is prostitution? According to oxford English dictionary, it’s a practice of prostituting one self with multiple partners for congress, it’s a consequence of social-economic psychological and biological aspects of life.

However, the overwhelming  obsession in Mtwapa to prostitution is facilitated by seven different types of prostitutes.

• bar prostitutes
• bar maid prostitutes
• street light prostitutes
• indoor prostitutes
• super rich prostitutes
• sugar daddy prostitutes
•  sugar mummy  prostitutes

Let us examine one after the other:-

Bar Prostitutes:-these are prostitutes who visit the bar from their respective residence  purposely to get a drink, a meal and some money from a male prostitute in exchange for money

Bar maid prostitutes:- these are some staff working within the bar  but discreetly prostitute themselves as sex workers to supplement their low salaries.

Street light prostitute:- are those who hang outside night spots for example bars  but mainly where they could get  illuminated by light. They normally  hang themselves in designated areas.

Indoor prostitutes:- these operate as sex workers from the comfort of their homes , male clientele would pay them visits for sex

Super rich prostitutes:- are well off prostitutes  who will venture out to have one for the road but at the back of their minds prey on rich male clientele, in most cases they are selective.

Sugar daddy (prostitutes:-these are older men who pay a teenage and youth school  drop outs.

Sugar mummy (prostitutes):-these are older women who are  well off but occasionally visit bars they normally keep gigolo’s who benefit from material remuneration and some money for  up.

Needless to say, all the groups crave for satisfaction one way or the other, sadly though most of the sex-workers are paid for loss of social standing in society. They change men with confusing regularity despite the prevalence of Hiv/Aids diseases

Their commitment to their “evil cancer” in society especially at night has earned them a tag  of “nocturnal predators.” prostitution is in Mtwapa to stay, Prostitutes have literally forfeited all rights to dignity and respect both to themselves and class as well as  within society at large.

Some prostitutes are opposed to the use of contraceptives hence have given men opportunity to plant a seed here and another there without thinking seriously of social consequences’ of sex liberalism.

A sight of a naïve foreign white man or woman engenders competion so, fortune, favours the brave. In their regard however anyone who  radiates warmth, charm and a sense of fun, captivates “mzungu”.....................to be continued....

                      Article by

francis barasa (freelance photo journalist based in Mtwapa)

Cell phone: 0710 102916 or 0736499082

Email: francis_snr@yahoo.com